I've been waiting to share my story with you guys and finally, I had the energy and time right now to pen down my heartfelt thoughts. This is one story that I hope to inspire and give hope to others about finding love. It's nothing tragic like contracting a disease or going through a tough period with constant struggles. It's just a period of time where you felt that constant emotional struggle in you of thinking when the One is going to appear in your life. If you are single right now, you totally know what I meant.
11. You’re suddenly more scared of death because you don’t want to be without them.
12. You’re literally a piece of toast and butter.
I've been living in solitude like a pendulum swinging from side to side for the past 27 years, wondering when would I ever get pulled away by another magnet. At times, you will be wondering, 'What is wrong with me?' or ' If I haven't the love of my life, I am totally alright being single.' On those dejected days, I would go, 'OK. I am fated to be single and carefree for the rest of my life.'
And those who are already coupled up and standing on the 'I'm taken' island would be the ones that you envy the most. Rather than cradling jealousy of these lucky people, I would be the nosey one to ask them how they seek and found love. We learn from experience and learning from their precious experience will probably get me to somewhere. Although there were times I felt like giving up, I knew deeply that there is this 1% possibility of me meeting that special one because life is full of surprises. Indeed, it really is.
27 years is really a long time! When you past the mid-twenties, you would go like, 'That's it. Don't even think about meeting your prince charming. Your Prince charming has aged and went into hiding.' But you know what, I'm so glad that I didn't give up even with that glimmer of hope in me. All I knew was that I just can't be sitting on the couch, waiting for the knight of my life to arrive with a shining amour because even the ugly toads are not appearing for me to kiss them and transform them into a dashing Prince. I also didn't want to fill up my schedule with events and outings just so I won't feel lonely but instead, I decided that I should just try dating and meeting new people.
It didn't quite work for me as I was introverted so I simply don't mix well with the crowd and I could never shine like a star and exude confidence in front of strangers especially. I totally lose out to those girls with screaming wild and interesting personalities who could easily capture the attention of any guy. So I figured that if I really want someone to know me better for who I am, I have to make the effort to step out of my comfort zone and taking the initiative to talk to others. But somehow fate is going against my flow, tempering my opportunities for meeting the opposite sex. I always ended up in all-female environment or paired up with females in group settings. And I don't think life is ever going to be exciting being surrounded by all females when I needed that punch of masculinity to make my life more balance. If only I could select the people that I would hang out with and I figured that my best bet is online dating apps. I know it seems treacherous because you wouldn't know if you are talking to a hot dude, Shrek or just a up-to-no-good bastard but it's one of the best ways to connect to people from all walks of life and what's best is that you get to select whom you want to connect with.
The selection process is the difficult part. I might be able to give some tips on choosing the good lad to talk to after going out on several dates using OKcupid and Tinder. But the basic rule to this online dating game is to get real. Although you are communicating with the person online, it is only REAL when you meet the person. So it is important not to rely too much on text messaging just as revealing too much about yourself even before meeting up. I can go on and go on it but let me dive straight into the essence of this best... I found my soulmate on Tinder!
Friends have been asking how we met and sometimes, I felt a little embarrassed for disclosing that we met on Tinder because it isn't the usual way of meeting someone. It didn't even sound romantic at all. But I guess more importantly is what comes out of it. Whether it's through online dating app, matchmaking, friend recommendation or a romantic encounter, at the end of the day, I still met someone I love and cherish. And it's a bonus when you discovered that he or she is your soulmate.
Although our love was young and we are together for barely three months, I am sure that this man whom I trust is a life-long best friend and confidante. He was my first date on Tinder after I started using it early this year. He didn't came across to me as a guy that is even worth dating because he didn't quite fit my 'criteria' for guys (I've came to realize the danger for setting that criteria.) But fate somehow made us closer especially after our first-meet up. It was never easy-breezy because the attraction didn't seem as strong initially but spending time together has roughed out the edges and made the road between us smoother.
About a few weeks ago, when he shared an online article with me on love and relationship. I was more affirmed about my decision to be his girlfriend. Looking back, it was truly a miracle because it's a story I would have never dreamt of.
The article was titled '12 Sure Signs You've Met Your Soulmate'. Kudos to the writer who wrote and illustrate this because speaking from experience, I couldn't agree more with what was mentioned in the article. Good things are meant to be shared and here-forth, I'm unravelling this cool finding to all of you.
" “But how will I know who my Soulmate is?” Brida felt that this was one of the most important questions she had ever asked in her life. By taking risks’ she said to Brida. ‘ By risking failure, disappointment, disillusion, but never ceasing in you search for Love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end.”
- Paulo Carlo, Brida
12 Sure Signs You've Met The One
1. It's easy.
It wasn't much of a difficult choice to make when he asked me to be his girlfriend. There weren't any loud objection from our families or friends too. I'm not sure about those struggling love stories in K-dramas because they are not real to begin with. Being with the right one should feel burden-less then the journey ahead the both of you would be a smooth and fruitful one.
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2. Time moves faster... but more happens?
Time shortens whenever I'm around with him and I just wish the day was longer so I could spend hours with him. It does felt like we've known each other for years after what we've been through within this short span of 2 months being together.
3. You worry about them more than yourself.
I worry whether if he is hungry or getting enough sleep. He is always on mind.
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4. Your mom, dad or best friend thinks they’re the one for you very early on.
This wasn't entirely true for our case as they felt that we were moving too fast but it did felt right. It is only now that they start to see how we fit together like a puzzle.
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5. Your chemistry is outrageous and so is your mutual respect.
I never knew I could be so comfortable with him right after we got together. And to me, when the chemistry is right, he would seem like your bestest friend on the planet because you can just be yourself whenever he is around. And because you loved each other, you want to show mutual respect for each other and it is important to establish the boundaries and rules in a relationship.
6. You’re obsessed with the way they smell.
He didn't smell exactly like shaven cologne only when he actually uses a perfume but his linger smell just comforts you as you know that he is right beside you.
7. You're best friends.
We can't stop talking to each other and talk about everything and anything under the sun.
8. You can have fun doing anything.
I never knew it was that much fun communicating in baby language with him.
9. You feel like the luckiest person alive for having them.
I felt really lucky to be his first and last (hopefully).
10. You can really be yourself around them.
Even if it means farting right infront of him...
Suddenly, life becomes so precious because I just didn't want to leave him.
When both comes together, it's heavenly-made delicious.
You are my kaya forever, bae.
Adapted from 12 Sure Signs You've Met The one by Buzzfeed.